Future complications

Note - I'm writting this from my phone so sorry for any spelling errors.

My wife hates the city and dreams of moving to a quiet, rural town one day.  I've always shared that dream, but now I'm realising that it might not be possible.

To put it lightly, I'm not quite normal.

In the city people are more tolorant and I have acess to medical care and the lgbt community.  I won't have that kind of support out in the boonies, and because of the physical changes that I need to make to my body the risk of violance against me (and my wife) is increased.

Just what am I and what am I to become?  I almost wish I was fully transgendered so that I could at least have a clear goal as to what I need to do.  Because I'm both genders, (and a little more to spice things up) I plan on making my body as androgynous as possible through hormones and minor surgery.  This is something that I need to do if I'm to stay sane.

How would people view my wife and I in a small rural town?  Would they think we were lesbians?  Would they think we were some sort of sick, sexual deviants?  Would I be forced to remain in the closet for the rest of my life?  I tend to always think of the worst case scenario and being a member of the trans comunity I know that a worst case scenario would be life ending.

Now I know that just because a town is out in the country it does not mean that all it's full of transphobic biggots.  (We have plenty of them in the city.)  I just don't feel like I will be safe there, or have the support that I need.   I knew that the path I'm on is going to have a huge effect on my future, but now I'm realising just how much it's going to fuck everything up for my wife if she remains with me and I feel guilty as hell. 

The worst part is that there's nothing I can do to change the course I'm on, even though it's going to take me strait through a hurricane and my wife is along for the ride.  I hate this.